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●“很多人來到這裡都問我︰‘我的事業好不好？家庭好不好？孩子好不好？姻緣好不好？’“我只是回答一句︰‘你的脾氣好不好？一切都會有答案。’”
●“拜神求平安，回家卻和父母頂嘴，要怎樣得到平安？”
●“父母才是真神，對父母比神好一點，一切便順順利利。”
●“心好有好日”－這也是白龍王的座右銘。
●“讀書讀得高就好，脾氣高就很不好。”
●“神不會騙人，只有人騙神。死人不會罵人，只有人罵死人。”
●“無論是甚麼人，壞人、好人、有錢人、窮人，來到這裡都要排隊。”
●“拜神不要迷信。”
●“好樹生好火，家中夫妻和諧，孩子才會學習去遷就人家。”
DerrickY
19/01/2010
0028
Let's just say if you're an emotional wreck, you probably don't want to go ahead and commit your self to casual sex or a casual relationship, as that is the equation for disaster, especially if you just got out of a relationship or you are just desperate to be in one.
Remember that friends with benefits is not a relationship, and even though a friends with benefits situation can be considered a casual relationship, that doesn't mean that it is a "real" relationship (IE boyfriend/girlfriend).
In order to have a "friends with benefits" type casual relationship, you want to make sure that you are in the right mindset for that type of relationship. You want to make sure that you are stable enough on your own before attempting this feat, and yes it truly is a feat- an endeaver that many people cannot undergo.
What are the rules of a casual relationship (IE friends with benefits)? Well, it's a little more complicated than you think. I mean, casual sex seems pretty simple, but if you have opted for casual intercourse and sexual activity exclusively with one person, it's a little more complicated than you think.
You have to make sure that you and your potential "cuddle buddy" are both in the proper mindset. If one of the two of you actually has feelings for the other, then it's not going to work. Think about it, if Jane has the slightest amount of feelings towards John, then she's just going to get hurt thinking the intimacy will lead to a "real" relationship when it probably won't.
And with casual relationships, no one is supposed to get hurt, that's why it's called casual...
Meaning that you can bug the other person "whatcha doing?" "wanna go to the movies?" "can i come?" "who ya hanging out with?" None of that.
Basically, this goes hand in hand with no feelings involved. The more strings there are, the more feelings get involved, and if you truly are not looking for a committed relationship, then you don't want serious feelings and attachments to be involved.
If you have any expectations about when you and your "cuddle buddy" will be hanging out, or any expectations about the future of the casual relationship that you've found yourself in, then stop right there. End it. Keep your troublemaker locked inside your pants.
The minute you start having expectations about when you're supposed to hang out or what you or the other person are supposed to be doing, that's it. You've got a few strings, and strings lead to attachments, which lead to feelings, and if you're in a casual relationship with one thing on your mind, you don't want to further this situation.
You don't want anyone to get hurt, and the minute one person starts to get feelings that the other is not experiencing, someone is going to get hurt, even if you don't mean it.
With the basic rules understood, the question is, "can friends have casual relationships and still be friends?"
Personally, I think so, as long as both parties make sure to keep any sign of seriousness out of the picture. Keep things fun, playful, and string-free, and I believe friends can carry on a "friends with benefits" relationship.
Just make sure that all of the rules about the situation are outlined in the beginning before things ever get started.
My opinion isn't the same as other's though. Many people believe that if all you want is casual sex, leave your friends out of it. You don't want to lose a friendship of a casual relationship.
When deciding whether or not you want to be friends with benefits, the ultimate decision is going to be up to you, but personally, if you're going to have casual sex with someone, wouldn't you prefer that you at least know the person and trust the person? I know I would.
The one thing that I wouldn't recommend, is a friend with benefit that was once a boyfriend, or girlfriend, but you never know maybe that would work for you. You just want to make sure that there are no leftover feelings underlying with either party.
Now, if you are seriously thinking about a friends with benefits situation, good for you, give it a shot. I don't recommend it for everyone, but if you think you want to try it, go for it.
And, you never know, that friend with benefit situation may actually turn into more, but don't get your hopes up and don't go into the situation thinking that!!!
Just remember that a casual relationship is a lot of work on both parties. It's not some thing that is truly as care-free as it seems, and whether or not it is worth it in the end, that's something are going to have to decide.
Personally, whether a casual relationship is worth it or not, depends on the situation and the person.
An example being, an old friend comes to town for a month. You've been talking for about a month prior, and you've decided to "see where things go," but at the same time the friend will be moving over 12 hours away at the end of that month. You can either 1) truly see where things will take you, or 2) have a good time no strings attached. It's really up to you as to the decision, but if you go into the situation wanting to see where things will take you, what happens when the friend leaves and you or the friend has more feelings than intended, what then? Would you move? Or would you rather not stress the situation, and just have a good time for a month?
I'm a stresser, so my decision is to limit the amount of stress to undergo. I'll opt for pure fun for a month. But, what do you do?
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DerrickY
04/01/10
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